There are quite a few reasons for this. It’s a combination of past experiences, assumptions and predictions, and a little bit of impulsivity. Let’s go over how each of these reasons can influence your thoughts and, thus, your reactions in life.
Past Experiences
When it comes to developing your thoughts, one of the key influencers would be your past experiences. Your past experiences can include just about anything, like the parenting style used to raise you, your socioeconomic status, whether you experienced abuse, and traumatic events you may have witnessed first-hand.
These experiences help to shape who you are today.
Let’s say you grew up with verbally abusive parents and harbour resentment toward them and abusers in general.
As an adult, you might be put in a situation where you feel like you’re being bullied or ostracised for who you are. But the reaction you have might vary wildly. There’s a possibility that you’ll withdraw and avoid these new people that make you think of your abusive parents. Or, you might stand up for yourself like you wish somebody would’ve done when you were a child.
Either way, there’s a pretty good chance your mind inadvertently went to thoughts you have about your past and your parents before formulating a response to this situation.
Assumptions And Predictions
When you develop your personality and thought processes, you’ll also begin building your assumptions and predictions. Now, these can be based on things you’ve experienced without even knowing it. You might just be able to analyse a situation and assume what will happen next.
These can significantly influence your reactions.
Let’s say you witnessed a traumatic car accident as a child and now have a lingering fear about cars and pedestrians.
As an adult, you’re walking down the street and notice a car barrelling toward a pedestrian in the road. Since your mind might automatically go back to the thoughts about that traumatic event from your childhood, your reaction will vary. Maybe you’ll jump out into the road to pull the pedestrian out of the road. Or, perhaps you’ll just run away in shock as history repeats itself.
But, these reminders from your past will influence how you react.
Impulsivity
There’s also a pretty good possibility that you respond to things purely out of impulsivity. That means you develop your feelings about an event rather quickly and act without even a second thought. In this case, you didn’t have an idea to rely on.
This might encourage you to act when you usually wouldn’t.
Let’s say you witness a crime being committed as an adult.
Instead of thinking about what you should do or whether or not you should call the police, you immediately jump in and attempt to apprehend the suspect. You didn’t have any thoughts here, only relying on your instincts to respond to the situation at hand.
Final Thoughts
The reactions you have in life are based on a lot more than just the personality you’ve developed. They’re formulated based on your thoughts regarding past experiences, assumptions, and a sense of impulsivity.
But that doesn’t mean that you have to settle for the reactions you’re used to. After all, there’s a lot that you can do right now to begin shifting your perspective and to gain a little empathy. So, take a short time to think about how you feel before actually responding to things in your lif